Rosa you are right about us knowing what the word of God says. What we that have experienced heartache must teach as the Titus 2 woman is suppose to do is teach the young ladies how to love their husband and to do this they must first become wife material because it is a reason why that scripture says He that finds a wife finds a good thing and that is because when we are found we are already ready to be wives not learning. So it is our responsibility to teach them one most important Scripture and that is Psalms 27:14 NIV Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord. Also as I type the Holy Spirit gave me another Scripture that we must teach and that is Psalm 37:4 NIV Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart's desires. But most importantly is the waiting on the Lord and while we are waiting we must be learning to be wives. It is good to be single because while we are single we can be use to our ultimate potiential for the Lord but once we are married he can not use us as much because we have other responsibilities. With love we must teach them that is okay to be single and allow God to be our husband until he has prepared us for our mate and our mate for us. I know that you were not being self-righteous this is how you feel and the only way we can heal is to discuss our hurts and bring them to the altar and leave them there. So Be bless my sista and encouraged because God is always in control and when he gives us we must remember that ways that seem right unto man are not the ways of God and we must always teach or correct in love. We will be received better. God Bless. Pastor Tonja